Heather Rae Young Gets Tattoo Of Tarek El Moussa’s Name: Should you ever get a tattoo of your partner’s name?

Heather Rae Young, one of the stars of the the hit Netflix series Selling Sunset, just got some new ink — and it wasn’t exactly well received. In fact, she ended up being the butt of a plethora of cheeky jokes.

After posting on her stories that she was getting a special Valentine’s Day gift for her fiancé, HGTV star Tarek El Moussa, she revealed in a now-deleted Instagram post that she got Tarek’s name tattooed on her rear end.

But that’s not all. No, she didn’t just get Tarek’s name. Her full tattoo reads, “Yes sir, Mr. El Moussa.”

Yeah, we’re cringing too. And for more reasons than one.

Here at XO Juliet we are totally of the mindset that it’s your body, so it’s your rules that should govern it. So if Heather wants to call Tarek ‘sir’ and tattoo it on her body, good on her for living by rules that make her happy. But much of the Internet found it to be a bit much — both because of “Yes sir” and calling him “Mr. El Moussa,” and also because it can be a big no-no to get a tattoo of your partner’s name. Therefore, we decided to address a big question facing people with a propensity for getting inked:

Should you get a tattoo of your partner’s name?

We’re in the business of love, so we like to think that ‘happily ever after’ really is for ever after. However, outside of the bounds of fairytales and romance novels, relationships are a bit more complex than that. As a result, in regards to the aforementioned question, our answer is a resounding “No.” You should not get a tattoo of your partner’s name.

The future is unpredictable. That doesn’t just go for your relationship(s), but it also applies to the ways our bodies and tastes change. In the case of the former, you may not like the way your tattoo swells and shrinks over time. In the case of the latter, you might grow to resent the font, the style, and the general aesthetic of your tattoo as time goes on. Neither of those options have anything to do with the status of your relationship, either now or going forward. Thus, even if your happily ever after truly is as happy as we hope it is, it’s probably a good idea to avoid a tattoo of your partner’s name. There are plenty of other ways to show your partner that you’re in it for the long haul: via your marriage proposal, your wedding vows, and throughout the entirety of your relationship via acts of love.

In Heather’s case though, what’s done is done and the ink is already on the cheek. She deleted her post because of how poorly the Internet responded to her new ink, but her soon-to-be husband apparently loved it. Tarek commented, “Forever and ever and ever” with heart emojis under Heather’s picture of the bum tattoo.

At this point, we think the future Mrs. El Moussa should own it. Once you post a picture of your backside etched with the words, “Yes sir, Mr. El Moussa,” we’re not sure there’s any going back.

_{Featured photo courtesy of House Beautiful.}